When we are in a vulnerable place, triggered, overextended, overwhelmed, stressed, hormonal, whatever, we function from a less than resourceful state and therefore can very easily fall prey to negative thinking, victimization, sabotaging, undermining, deprecating, blaming, abuse, neglect and rejection of self and others. When in this state we cannot see the good, the beautiful, and what is working. When thinking through the lens of anxiety and depression we only focus on the bad, inviting more bad…….
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that this is not a good way to live. Choosing to live this way is to choose to live in pain, and lots of it. Unfortunately, most of us don’t realize we are doing this to our own selves. We have a tendency to blame external factors when the reality is that it is all up to us to be happy. We do not realize that we have control over our own thinking and what comes of it. Our thinking is mighty powerful, it creates what it thinks! Look for the negative and you shall find it…
The opposite is obviously also true. Think positive, creative, competent, empowering, energetic, outgoing, warm, loving, nurturing, compassionate, understanding, and other beautiful thoughts and you will automatically feel much better. It is actually that simple to be happy. I’m measuring happy as a state of feeling, not by measuring possessions, success and such… If you are waiting to have it all together to be happy, you will be waiting a long time. Nothing is ever perfect or done. We are always in a state of evolution and growth. Our projects could always be done a little more quickly, a little more efficiently, a little more creatively, a little more something. In a state of control and perfectionism, happiness can’t exist. We have to let go.
Thinking we can control everything, including how others are, is a sure way to live an unhappy life. When we let go of the illusion of control and perfectionism, when we focus our thinking on how we can do things differently and take charge of our own self, when we look at situations from a growth opportunity place, when we look to stretch and grow ourselves upwards, when we focus on the gifts in our lives, then we can be happy and then we can create the life and relationships we want
Taking charge of our thinking and perception, choosing to think and be positive, empowers us. This allows us to be happy and to attract and create beauty in our life, including a loving and beautiful relationship with ourselves and others.
Go ahead, choose to think and be positive. Beat Anxiety and Depression! Choose to be happy. Create an awesome life and relationship! Please let us know if we can help. Contact us at Fort Lauderdale Therapy Center to set up an appointment today!
Contributed by: Sultana M. Pashalidis MA LMFT